Dennis Yu

Why "Fake it till you make it" is terrible advice

Adam Urbanski, founder of Marketing Mentors

Be careful who you hire as your coach. This is literally a messenger convo I just had! All I can say is… YIKES!

I wish this was an isolated experience. Sadly, I have such convos quite often.

20- and 30-some-year-olds who haven’t figured out life yet are announcing themselves to be success gurus. Here’s my go-to practice to quickly check them out.

I scroll through their profile banners. Here’s a somewhat typical two or three-year banner history for so many of them:

>> Drunken high-school or college picture.

>> Check out my awesome body stage.

>> Real-estate, bit-coin, “you-name-that-mlm-I-be-a-millionaire-tomorrow” stage.

>> Tropical paradise / re-discovery / “I’m-now-an-enlightened-being” stage.

>> Fitness or life coach stage (I now know everything about how to be successful and can help you get there in 90 days.)

>> Marketing guru! (I have arrived: “submit-to-my-high-ticket-selling-skills” stage!)

Of course, in real life, those banners often tell an even more colorful history. Each one is entertaining and very revealing that the person who’s about to take your money has zero qualifications to actually deliver on their promises.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Everyone has to start somewhere. I totally get that. And learning marketing and selling is a powerful skill that will definitely help you get ahead. But skills don’t replace ethics! Do it the right way.

So here’s my advice if you currently find yourself on a trajectory I just described:

DON’T FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT!

Don’t promise to help someone build a 7-figure business if you haven’t built one yourself and have never actually helped anyone do it.

Instead, TALK YOUR WALK!

Identify a winning experience and teach people the skills and lessons you have already mastered.

For example, the person in this convo (who just blocked me because I called them on their shit) could easily teach people how to develop good sales skills.

Maybe even how to land a well-paid, commission-based sales position somewhere. That’s what he’s done… Heck, I could help them turn that into a multi-six and seven-figure business rather quickly – I’ve done this and helped others in a nearly identical position do exactly that.

Then they could teach the “how to build the 7-figure success” stuff themselves. But not yet!

TALK YOUR WALK!

Do something, achieve something first – even if it’s relatively “small” – there are plenty of people who would likely pay you to teach them how to do that “small” thing.

And you’ll likely find success quickly (and ethically) doing that!

That’s my rant and lesson for the up-and-coming gurus.

Do the right thing.

DO THE WORK first!

P.S. My door is always open to people who want to monetize their genius and expertise. Want to package what you know into really amazing offers that actually help people and are based on your real skills?

Let’s talk. I’ll help you make so much money and create so much good impact so fast that your head will spin. And yes – I’ve done this, hundreds of times (actually, I can probably say THOUSANDS of times.)

Full credit to Adam Ubanski, founder of Marketing Mentors.


Dennis Yu

Dennis Yu is co-author of the #1 best selling book on Amazon in social media, The Definitive Guide to TikTok Ads. He has spent a billion dollars on Facebook ads across his agencies and agencies he advises. Mr. Yu is the "million jobs" guy-- on a mission to create one million jobs via hands-on social media training, partnering with universities and professional organizations. You can find him quoted in major publications and on television such as CNN, the Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, NPR, and LA Times. Clients have included Nike, Red Bull, the Golden State Warriors, Ashley Furniture, Quiznos-- down to local service businesses like real estate agents and dentists. He's spoken at over 750 conferences in 20 countries, having flown over 6 million miles in the last 30 years to train up young adults and business owners. He speaks for free as long as the organization believes in the job-creation mission and covers business class travel. You can find him hiking tall mountains, eating chicken wings, and taking Kaqun oxygen baths-- likely in a city near you.

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