Ask for what you want. Be specific.
I believe the main reason people don’t get what they want is simply because they don’t ask for it specifically. Don’t just ask for a job– say you’re a digital marketer serving dentists to attract dentists to hire you. Don’t just say you need a mentor– say you’re trying to get Descript and Frame.io to […]
Love is spelled T I M E
Wherever you spend your time reveals what you love. Are you wasting time on frivolous activities while ignoring loved ones? Are you overworked and overwhelmed— being out of time? Then you’re allocating your time wrong by spreading your love too thin. It’s not only okay to say NO, but you must say NO often so […]
Question for you guys
These past few months have been wild! If you had asked me on March 1st how I would cope with being on lockdown, I would have laughed in your face. And yet, here we are. We’ve had some time to process, reflect, and hopefully begin emerging on the other side of this crisis, so I […]
I quit
It’s just too much for me, the failure and pain. I quit procrastinating since I’m only busier tomorrow– I trounce fear head-on, doing that thing I’m avoiding immediately. I quit listening to people who give me unqualified advice since everyone has an opinion– but only those who have actually done X are qualified to advise […]
20 years ago, I ran D1 track and cross country– and told Coach I wanted to quit.
But first, this is me towards the end of the 3,000-meter steeplechase, after leaping over the water barrier. We sometimes ran over 100 miles a week, two runs a day starting at 5 am, plus weight training. Getting up when it’s dark outside, when you’re exhausted, to run 5 miles in 25 minutes will teach […]
If you find yourself unhappy, ask yourself…
Are you making excuses or are you making progress? Are you blaming others (diminishing your power) or are you being accountable (taking charge)? You can make a million dollars or make a million excuses– but not both. My mentors taught me that success is a 50% mindset. And when you are super choosy about who […]
Love
I’m convinced that LOVE is what most people are desperately missing and desperately craving. It causes them to flex on Instagram, secretly hoping for respect and adulation– social proof being a lightweight form of love. It causes them to work hard in their careers, sometimes resorting to stealing when the results don’t come fast enough. […]
Don’t accept any less than 100%
I’ve been learning an incredibly painful lesson, which has cost me years of my life and drained my soul. Don’t accept any less than 100%. Would you board a jet that had a 99% no-crash rating? Or a friend that was incredible 99% of the time, but ripped you off blind 1% of the time? […]
It is better to be kind than right
When you look back on what could have been, and the Phyrric victories you’ve “won”, realize it wasn’t worth it. The cost to be kind is zero dollars and almost zero time, but you do have to put aside your ego. This is how we all grow as people— to be the bigger man— and […]
Between any two points, you can draw a line.
Selectively, you can rationalize any conclusion, by ignoring the dots you don’t want to see. That’s why your own self-belief and bias have massive hidden power in the outcome of any situation. Usually creating patterns that repeat— which you may find frustrating or may love. Face that bias head-on, as ugly and painful as it […]